Discovering ‘memes’….

There is a whole world of blogdom out there that I haven’t had a clue about – not the slightest clue. So…in my retirement weeks, I’ve been exploring. Kinda interesting, to say the least. And I’ve found a number of blogs I really like, a few that drive me bonkers and several that offer a weekly invitation to participate on a theme….which I am gathering is what a ‘meme’ is. I’ve done a few 5-Minute Fridays from the Gypsy Mama (and if this ‘button’ from today’s adventure works, I’ll post her button the next time I try one of her challenges. Not at all sure how to make such buttons line up on one side of the blog – but that’s a project for another day. Today, I’m answering the queries listed below:



1. March 2nd is Dr. Seuss’s birthday so I’m wondering…do you like green eggs and ham? Okay-how about this instead…how do you like your eggs? Or don’t you?

I actually LOVE green eggs and ham if the ‘green’ is avocado in a scrambled mix of goodies. Not crazy about the color, but love the flavor. It’s a toss-up between scrambled and over easy on toast or a half baked potato for my favorite way to eat them. Both my mother and my son think I am nuts for liking runny eggs – positively makes them gag. Oh well…
2. Is March coming in like a lion or something less ferocious where you live?
Where I live, it’s been rainy since March opened its doors. Not exactly either lion or lamb. But then, I live on the central coast of California where the seasons are slightly more subtle than in other parts of the world.
3. Do you work better or worse under pressure?
I have always, ALWAYS worked better under pressure. I need deadlines and schedules and assignments. That’s why retirement has always seemed such a fearsome thing to me. HELP!! What do I do without all that?? Well, so far, I do pretty much whatever is at hand to do – and that’s been kinda nice, actually. So maybe in my old age, I’m giving up the stress-obsess of my past life? Time will tell…
4. March Madness-are you a fan? It’s college basketball in case you’re wondering. And if you’re outside the USA tell us-is there any sort of ‘madness’ taking place during March in your part of the world?
My husband and son are fans – I am not. I used to be – a little bit. But I’m married to a man who LOVES all things sports – well, almost all things sports – there a few he skips. And at age 66, I’m about done with sports on TV. So, I read, I surf the internet, I watch tivo’d programs, I talk to my kids or my friends. I don’t do sports programs very much at all – except for tennis. But once it gets down to the final 4 or so in all that March craziness, I’m interested in who wins – though not quite interested enough to actually watch any of it.
5. Under what circumstances do you do your best thinking?
It varies. Most often, I think best when I’m alone, sitting in my car on the bluffs above our nearest beach. But often, my thinking is jogged/challenged/excited/spurred/changed by discussion with others whose mouths are as quick as their minds. My mouth is not so much – I need to process a bit – but I enjoy the challenge of discussion and that can often really spur my thinking in good directions.
6. What item of clothing from your wardrobe do you wear most often?
Probably the comfy sweatpants and sweatshirts on my closet shelf this season of the year. Jeans a close second.
7. Do you use sarcasm?
Hmmm….does one ‘use’ sarcasm? I guess I do – a little. I try not to be truly sarcastic, maybe more ironic?? And if I am sarcastic, it is most often directed at me.
8. Insert your own random thought here.
I haven’t a CLUE what I’m doing with all this new techno blog stuff – when I preview this written excerpt, it looks as though every line is underlined – and I have absolutely no idea why. Maybe I need to add some schedule to my life and TAKE A CLASS ON ALL THIS!!

5-Minute Fridays – 5 Years Ago


Five years ago, our kitchen/family room/dining area/living room looked like this – CRAZY MAKING. And it looked like some version of this for almost a year. We cooked, ate and lived in the back bedroom and bathroom.


But that difficult year quickly disappeared from memory as the new space began to appear. Part of it shows in the picture below – bright, cheery colors, new appliances, new window seat, fun living and gathering space.


But the real joy of this space is perhaps more perfectly shown in this picture – celebrating our eldest grandson’s 19th birthday last year. The ‘joys’ of remodeling are nicely replaced with the true joys of family life.
Five years ago, the bigger of these two precious girls was a newborn (as was her equally fabulous male cousin). And the littlest one wasn’t even on the horizon. How quickly things change, how blessed we are in most of those changes.


But five years ago, we still had our son-in-law with us. Five years ago, we still had my youngest brother with us. Five years ago, my husband did not have prostate cancer. Five years ago, I had no major health issues. Five years ago, I was working as a pastor, a ministry I loved and was called into. Five years ago, life was different in some much-missed ways, too. Thankfully, during each of those 5 years – and every event in them, both large and small – God showed up. Not always in the way I might have imagined, not always in the way I would have chosen – but God showed up. So, overall – I stand at this end of those 5 years and say, “Thank you.” Thank you for presence, thank you for promise, thank you for lives – as well as houses! – remade.

Changing Seasons…


So, I’m retired. What the heck does that mean? For one thing, it means not having a schedule requiring me to be anywhere official. For another, it means an awareness of how very tired I have been for a very long time. And for another, it means a strange sort of free-floating anxiety, a sense of uncertainty, a lack of rootedness. Not having the schedule is lovely – at least for a while – and feels like a gift. Strangely enough, acknowledging my deep fatigue is also a gift, of sorts. Stopping for a while somehow gives my body permission to say, “Whoa, it’s about time, sister.” And that’s a good thing in the long run, even if it feels a bit disconcerting in the moment. But that last piece – that semi-anxious uncertainty….not so much a gift. At least I haven’t found the gift angle to it yet.

It was to be expected, I think. We moved to a community new to us so that I could take the job I’ve just left. It wasn’t THAT far from our home of almost 30 years, but just far enough so that it wasn’t easy for long-time friends to see me or me them. Family made the effort, for which I am deeply and continually grateful. But…this was a place where we came to work. And now I’m not – working, that is. Funny thing is…it sometimes feels more like I’m not, period.
It took me a long time, a time of praying and talking and several complicated and interesting dreams, to understand that my biggest fears – fears about my loss of identity in this place if I were no longer a pastor – were pretty groundless. I AM a pastor, whether I’m paid to be one or not. But I am now a retired pastor, without a congregation to serve, without a title, without a space and a role that is mine to fill. I am almost embarrassed to put that into writing. What’s in a title, for heaven’s sake? What is a ‘role?’ Was I created and called to a title? I don’t think so….so there’s the pride thing to let go of, first of all.
And then there’s the ‘what’s next?’ part to grapple with. And I’m still there. Still grappling, that is. Wanting to do more writing, but terrified of it at the same time. Wanting to learn more about spiritual direction, but still so tired as to feel overwhelmed by it all at times. Wanting to go deeper spiritually – but frankly, a little scared about that, too.
It’s a time of changing seasons in life – and this season is the last one, pretty much. That is a sobering truth, causing me no small amount of angst about how and when the end of my life will arrive. So, as I try to navigate my way through this brand new territory, I am slowly learning more about trust, about breathing in God’s grace from moment to moment, about relishing the joyful beauty of the ordinary, about beginning and ending each day with gratitude, about leaning into the mystery that is the source of all life and hope and peace. It’s early yet – not quite six weeks into this strange new place – so I’m on the lookout for clues, small pieces to the puzzle, evidences of good things still to come. And last night’s sunset helped a whole lot in that department!

5 Minute Friday Assignment: The Women

The Birthday Breakfast Club – 26 years and counting: l to r: Betty, me, Meg, Judy, Nancy, Tonia, Carol
It began as an experiment – a group of 12 women in the same church community gathering around birthday celebrations. No set ‘spiritual’ agenda, just story-sharing. Oh my, were we surprised. Each of us unique, each of us with a story, a journey to share together – to talk about and wonder over and find God at work in. Some of us housewives and/or stay-at-home moms, a couple of us seminary professors, one a nurse, one a bookkeeper, one a teacher. All of us very quickly fiercely committed to being together around a meal (most often breakfast in the beginning, later morphing to whatever worked!). We came to celebrate one another and to celebrate our shared journey.

For me, this group proved to be one of the most significant and profound spiritual friendship groups in my life – my story turned to seminary at mid-life and a call to ministry that surprised all of us, me most especially. We laughed (and gave each other hilarious cards), we ate, we cried. Eventually, we began yearly weekend retreats together for deeper conversation and greater vulnerability. We’ve walked through deaths together and life together. We’ve talked through troubled children and losing jobs and feeling lost and being found. Now separated from this group by over 100 miles, we still make space to be all together at least once each year. How I thank God for the gift of enduring friendships over long stretches of time, for the joy of shared stories across the years, for the wisdom of women and the grace of friendship.

5 minutes up (actually an extra 30 seconds or so!)

Surprise Me…Some Reflections on WORDS

The assignment is….words. What to say, what to say? Words are gifts; words are weapons. Words are powerful; words are stumblingly flimsy. Words are mysterious; words are crystal clear. Words.Words.Words.


We’re told in Genesis that the power of word is what called the universe into being. We’re told in John’s gospel that Jesus is the word. And in and around those two seminal places in our sacred text, we find thousands and thousands of words – words that help and heal and words that convict and condemn. Words that puzzle and confuse and words that clarify and define. Words that invite us in and words that remain removed from us. Words that paint glorious pictures of real life and words that feel distant from our day-to-day 21st century living. And most of all…we find words that surprise, astonish, mystify, overwhelm, move and transform us. We find words combined into stories, combined in such a way as to startle us into truth. Words that prick us and poke us and cause us to sigh with recognition. And in the middle of those words, we meet a story-telling God whose stories literally tell us.

And it’s those words that leap off the page. Those Spirit-powered, flame-driven words that bring a flash of light, a moment of ‘aha!,’ a shifting of our inner emotional space, making room for truth and love and grace. When we come to these words in an attitude of openness, we discover that we are there, participants in God’s story of love and rescue. We, too, have bitten into forbidden fruit and paid the price for it; we, too, have wandered through the wilderness, wondering where we’ll land; we, too, have been overwhelmed by a task, only to discover that God is able, that God is faithful; we, too, have been lost and then found.

These words that surprise us, that begin their unsettling, stir-the-pot work in us – these are words that ask more of us than to simply smile in recognition, and shake our heads at the vagaries of human willfulness. These words do their work in us when we let the surprise work its way from our heads and hearts to our hands and feet. This is the power of words, of The Word in us – we find ourselves living life differently, living life newly, living life for Jesus’ sake. And for that to happen, those words must shinny on down into that place where bone and marrow meet. And there are – of course! – some old-fashioned, often hackneyed words that tell us that part of the story, too. Words like: conversion, repentance, obedience. Because, you see, we are continual works in progress; we are ever pilgrims on the way; we are always “being transformed into his image with ever-increasing glory.” (2 Corinthians 3:18) And that remarkable transformation begins with…words…

The pictures accompanying this brief essay were selected because of the gift of surprising beauty they represent. It had been a long, tiring day – much of it fun and meaningful – but…tiring, nonetheless. My almost 90-year-old mom is slowly getting smaller and frailer and somehow less of herself and we had spent the day together – eating lunch, redecorating her tiny apartment (at least in our heads!), seeing a remarkable movie (“The King’s Speech”) and talking about the pain and loss of the last few years since my dad’s and brother’s deaths. She had given me a gift card for Christmas – to a department store that is near her home, which is 115 miles south of mine. So I stopped there on my way back to see what I could find. It was almost 5:00 p.m and getting dark in the southern California sky and I spent the next 30 minutes finding some t-shirts on sale and one really pretty new skirt. I came out, bag in hand, even more tired than when I went in. And lo and behold – there was this sky. Right there in the middle of rush hour traffic in busy eastern Los Angeles county, surrounded by parking lot lights and screeching cars: glorious, beautiful SURPRISE. I grabbed my Canon 20D and behaved like a 10 year old at the county fair for the next 10 minutes or so. Transformed, you see. Transformed from a tired sixty-something, worried daughter of an aging mother to a jubilant, grateful, worshipful daughter of an Almighty and surprising God. I think that’s my word for 2011: surprise! It’s a great one!

An Anniversary…

Enjoying dinner at a favorite spot – The Montecito Cafe. It’s POURING rain here, and this one was close and sheltered. 
45 years ago today –

on a Saturday, too –
at 3:30 in the afternoon,
in the original sanctuary
of Glendale Presbyterian Church,
the one that separated ceiling from wall in the ’71 earthquake and had to be torn down, brick by brick, stone by stone….
two kids got married.

One was a senior at UCLA,
the other a recent grad of the same fine institution
and finishing his studies for an MBA at…USC.

They were excited, in love
and did not have a clue what they were getting into that afternoon.

An adventure, to be sure.
A challenge? Yes, indeed.
A lifelong partnership of give and take, push and pull, trial and error, laughter and tears, sickness and health, better and worse, richer and poorer (though that happened in reverse order, as it should!)
Would we do it again?
In a heartbeat. 

Three amazing children,

three remarkable children-in-law,
8 outstanding grandkids,
each of whom has added richness and joy to our lives.
Along the way, we’ve also enjoyed and endured:
living cross-culturally in the 60’s for two years,
moving 9 times,
post-graduate studies for both of us and each of our kids,
9 hospitalizations in our immediate family
and about 15-20 in our wider family circle –
a few of them really serious health issues,
including 4 difficult deaths (both of our dads, our son-in-law and my brother).
Life is good and life is terrible,
love is easy and love is hard work,
God is near and sometimes distant, at least from our end of things.
We’ve asked hard questions of ourselves and each other,
we’ve learned to listen even when we didn’t feel like it,
we have a great mutual admiration society thing going,
and sometimes we’d like to take a long walk and not come back for a while. 

But all of the time, ALL of the time – we rely on one another to be: 
a best friend, 
an honest responder, 
a loyal defender, 
a port in the storms of life. 

The memories are rich, the laughter is real, as are the tears.

But…after all these years, I can honestly and thankfully say
that the joys more than balance out the sorrows and the struggles when the math is done.
I am grateful tonight for my husband,
for my marriage,
for my family.



Advent 2: Waiting for Signs of New Life


Isaiah 11:1-10

a sermon preached at Montecito Covenant Church

December 5, 2010 by

Diana R.G. Trautwein

Today – December 5th – marks the 14th anniversary of my arrival at Montecito Covenant Church. December 5th was a Thursday in 1996, and on that date, I drove up here from our home in Altadena to begin my first-ever paid pastoral job in the newly created position of Associate Pastor. I find that fact a lovely bit of what our literary friends might call inclusio – a sweet bookend, drawing together the beginning and the end.

Because today does mark an ending of sorts. This will be the last sermon that I preach in this pulpit as Associate Pastor. That’s an ending. December 31 will officially mark the final day of my employment as a member of the pastoral staff. That, too, is an ending.

But…here’s the lovely thing about endings in this life we live together: the ending of one thing always brings the beginning of something new. That’s how the God of new life operates in this world of ours. Because the work of the kingdom is ongoing, there is always something being re-created out of the old stuff that keeps the gospel new and vibrant and relevant. There are pieces of the old always – woven in and amongst the shining threads of the new. And that is true of my relationship with this community as well.

I am blessed to be ordained in a denomination that does not require retiring pastors to permanently leave the congregations they have served. That is a blessing for us, that is for sure. You all have become family to Dick and to me and we value your friendship and encouragement so much. So – after a good long break from January through the end of April (just to make sure that both you and I fully understand that I am no longer working here) – we will be back worshiping with you once again. This time we’ll be sitting in the back of the sanctuary, however, and we’ll be figuring out how it might be that God will continue to use us as lay members at MCC. Now it is true, that I am a pastor for the rest of my life – my ordination holds until death! I will just not be one of your pastors any longer. Instead, I will be a retired pastor.

I already know that God is calling me to continue to develop my skills in Spiritual Direction, that ancient practice of the church that requires paying attention very intentionally to the work of the Holy Spirit in the life of another. I will continue my training and I will continue seeing individuals as God leads them to me. I will likely preach here from time to time, but as an invited guest preacher in future. My husband will, after our break, continue to serve on both the Finance and Whole Life Ministry Teams. Time will tell how else we might work together, and we both remain open (within limits!) to whatever opportunities present themselves.

But there is an exciting opportunity waiting for you in this ending-that-leads-to-a-new-beginning. During those early months of 2011, Pastor Jon Lemmond will also be gone, teaching in Europe with his wife and family – but he is coming back to work in May!

So between January and May (and really beyond that as well), we are going to need a fairly long list of folks to step up and help. Don and the remaining staff cannot possibly pick up all those pieces.

And so, we have been busy this fall gathering together a small team of people who are willing to provide some leadership in a variety of important areas. They’re all here this morning, clipboards in hand, to gather around themselves a few more willing helpers so that the work of the kingdom can continue without interruption in this place. I’m going to invite them to stand so you can see what they look like. And then find them on the patio and pick a place to offer your services. If everyone in this room said ‘yes’ to just one thing – we’d have all the bases covered pretty quickly. So, I am excited about this new thing that God will do in our midst as we transition to a different staff configuration. Count on it – God is not done with us yet!

And here’s a not terribly subtle little segue for you – just as God is not done with us, here in Montecito CA in the year 2010, so God was not done with his salvation plan in the time of the prophet Isaiah, which is where our primary text of the morning is found.

During our Advent series this year, we’re looking at some of the gorgeous words found in this major book of the Old Testament, the book that many believe was the foundational one for Jesus, as he lived out his life and ministry, as he suffered and died and rose again. So let’s listen to the words for this week, found in chapter 11, the first 10 verses. And I want you to especially listen for the inclusio found in this short selection, a sweet bookend which underscores the message of hope and promise that Isaiah has written. Hear the word of the Lord for us today:

1 A shoot will come up from the stump of Jesse; from his roots a Branch will bear fruit. 2 The Spirit of the LORD will rest on him – the Spirit of wisdom and of understanding, the Spirit of counsel and of might, the Spirit of the knowledge and fear of the LORD—3 and he will delight in the fear of the LORD. He will not judge by what he sees with his eyes, or decide by what he hears with his ears; 
4 but with righteousness he will judge the needy, with justice he will give decisions for the poor of the earth. 
He will strike the earth with the rod of his mouth; with the breath of his lips he will slay the wicked. 
5 Righteousness will be his belt and faithfulness the sash around his waist.

6 The wolf will live with the lamb, the leopard will lie down with the goat, 
the calf and the lion and the yearling together; and a little child will lead them. 
7 The cow will feed with the bear, their young will lie down together, and the lion will eat straw like the ox. 
8 Infants will play near the hole of the cobra; young children will put their hands into the viper’s nest. 
9 They will neither harm nor destroy on all my holy mountain, 
for the earth will be filled with the knowledge of the LORD as the waters cover the sea.

10 In that day the Root of Jesse will stand as a banner for the peoples; the nations will rally to him, and his resting place will be glorious.

Amen and Amen

Advent is a captivating season of the year. It comes when the world, at least our world in the northern hemisphere, is at its darkest point. The days are short, the nights and the shadows are long. The season lends itself to mystery, to contemplation, to cocooning, to waiting. Waiting for the light, waiting for the sun to shine a little higher in the sky, waiting for signs of new life.

I am learning more and more about waiting as I age. And I’m learning to appreciate it far more than I once did. I’ve been a somewhat impatient person for most of my life. Some folks might even use the word driven to describe me, although one can hope that when they do, they do so with affection! I haven’t liked waiting much, choosing too often to push for things to happen, to tap my feet and wring my hands and question why they aren’t happening faster! Too often, I’ve leapt into things without pausing long enough to reflectively and intentionally think through what the possible ramifications of my words/ actions/noise might have on a particular situation or the people involved in that situation.

But…I am learning. I am learning that regular times of quiet, and solitude; of hiddenness and watchfulness and careful listening and very deliberate pulling-out of the hubbub can bring incredibly rich rewards. Which is one of the reasons I have learned to love Advent.

I am also learning, through many tough, even terrible life circumstances, that there is gift to be found even there, in the middle of the toughness and the terror. Sometimes life forces us to slow down, and when it does, we need to search for the gift, to look for hope and promise and peace.

The prophet Isaiah, in the chapter just preceding the one before us today, has delivered a hard and a harsh word about a desolate future for the people of Israel – and for the people of Assyria, the nation that has swept aside that southern kingdom of Israel, demolishing and scattering the people as an instrument of God’s justice at work. And the image Isaiah uses for both nations is that of a forest being completely destroyed – listen!

1 Woe to those who make unjust laws… to deprive the poor of their rights and withhold justice from the oppressed of my people, making widows their prey and robbing the fatherless. What will you do on the day of reckoning, when disaster comes from afar? To whom will you run for help? 
… 33 See, the Lord, the LORD Almighty, will lop off the boughs with great power. 
The lofty trees will be felled, the tall ones will be brought low. He will cut down the forest thickets with an ax; Lebanon will fall before the Mighty One.

A devastating life experience if ever there was one! Every tree severed, the ground barren, hopeless, devoid of life.

And then our chapter for today opens with that glorious picture of new life!

Look for it, search for it, see it??

A green shoot coming up from what appears to be a dead stump; life in the midst of death and destruction; hope in the midst of defeat and dismay. A promise of peace; a picture of justice for the oppressed and needy; all of it because of this small, determined, burgeoning new spot of green in a devastated, defeated land.

Both Jewish and Christian interpreters view this passage as one of several messianic prophecies sprinkled through the words of Isaiah – for the figure that grows from that tiny shoot and is described in such glowing terms here – this One surpasses even the greatest of Israel’s kings.

This One is figuratively and literally wrapped up in righteousness and faithfulness – two of the key attributes of Israel’s God.

This One is indwelt by the Spirit of the LORD and blessed with the divine gifts of that Spirit. This One will judge or discern with superhuman powers that look below the surface to the very heart of life.

This One will usher in a new era – a time when previously natural enemies will dwell together in harmony, when children will not only be safe and secure from danger and harm – but will actually lead the way to this peaceable kingdom.

This One will stand as an ensign – a banner – a sign for all the world’s people to see and to rally behind and to rest in.

This One, this green shoot, this root of Jesse, this Messiah, whom we know to be Jesus – this Messiah will bring in the kingdom of our God in its fullest glory, its deepest fulfillment, its truest reality.

One of the writers I read in preparation for this week is a retired woman Episcopal priest named Fleming Rutledge, and her blogpost reminded me that:

“It is typical of Advent liturgies to weave together biblical and liturgical references to the first and second comings of Christ so that it is almost impossible and—more important—unnecessary to tell where one begins and the other ends….Advent is only secondarily about the baby Jesus. It is primarily about the rending of the heavens and the coming of the Lord in power and glory to take the creation back for himself. Until he comes, then, we are the people who put on the armor of light “now in this present time” and by our works point to the One who is to come.”

I really like that idea – that it is sometimes ‘impossible and – more important – unnecessary to tell where one begins and the other ends,” the first and the second coming of our Lord. In Advent, we remember that we wait for both the baby and the king of the universe, that we wait for things small, hidden and vulnerable and we wait for things explosive and dramatic and life-changing, that we wait for small moments of joy and larger-than-life moments of rapture, that we wait for a baby’s laughter and a king’s trumpet, that we wait for the God who created us to claim us, and the entire creation, as God’s and no one else’s. We wait for glory.

And in the meantime…in the meantime…we look for signs of new life, we look for signs of glory.

Where in your life today are you looking at devastation?

Where do you face fear or destruction or even death?

Where have the trees been clear-cut, demolished, cut off from the land of the living?

What kind of denuded land are you looking over this morning?

A relationship that’s teetering on the brink?

A diagnosis that is scary?

An overwhelming depression?

A season of crippling anxiety?

A child who is broken?

An unending stack of papers to write….or to grade?

An overbooked calendar and an under-ready spirit?

And if not in your own life right now, where is there devastation around you, in this community or the broader world?

Where is justice being short-circuited?

Where are the poor being oppressed?

Where are the widows and orphans being exploited?

We all look over landscapes, either personal or communal, that are pictures of disaster and disarray.

But wait a minute. Wait just a minute. What’s that over there?

Do you see it? LOOK FOR IT.

It’s small, it’s even struggling a little, but there it is.

A tiny green shoot – coming up right in the middle of all that ugliness. A sign of new life, a promise of hope, a reminder of peace, a picture of the kingdom that will be – and that already is.

We worship a God of new beginnings, dear friends. We worship a God who brings life right out of death. We worship a God who girds himself with human flesh and hurtles himself right down into the mess and says,

“Be of good cheer. I have come to seek and to save that which was lost.”

Oh, glory be.

______________________________

As we go to the table of the Lord this morning, I want to share with you one of the signs of new life I found this week – on Facebook, of all places.

Jim and Judy Halvorsen posted a beautiful 4-minute video of shots of Yosemite with a musical accompaniment that I found just lovely – and very much in keeping with the sound and spirit of Advent. So I did a little research on the song, which I had never heard before. It was written in 1972, with the title, “God and Man at Table Are Sat Down,” by then-chaplain at Oral Roberts University, Robert J. Stamps. It’s a song that seems to blend together perfectly the threads of the Isaiah passage and the gift of the table – let me share just a few of these small verses with you, and as you listen to these words – and as Bob and the worship team play the lovely melody – I invite you to prepare your hearts for communion, which we will share together today by coming forward down the center aisle to tear off a piece of bread and dip it into the cup and then return to our seats up the side aisles. If you find it difficult to walk to the front, the elements will be brought to you.

This song is now entitled: “In Christ There Is a Table Set for All” (verses 1 4,5,6,7)

copyright 1972 by Dawn Treader Music

Welcome, all you noble saints of old, as now before our very eyes unfold,

the wonders all so long ago foretold: In Christ there is a table set for all.

Who is this who spreads the vict’ry feast? Who is this who makes our warring cease?

Jesus, risen Savior, Prince of Peace. In Christ there is a table set for all.

Here he gives himself to us as bread; here, as wine, we drink the blood he shed.

Born to die, we eat and live instead! In Christ there is a table set for all.

Worship in the presence of the Lord. With joyful songs and hearts in one accord.

And let our host at table be adored. In Christ there is a table set for all.

When at last this earth shall pass away, when Jesus and his bride are one to stay.

The feast of love is just begun that day. In Christ there is a table set for all.

Remembering Ken…

Today we buried my youngest brother. His ashes have been sitting in a plastic container, in a red velvet bag, on a small shelf in our bedroom since the beginning of October, one year ago. He was almost two years sober when he died, and he was living in a recovery residence in Pomona. His health was terrible – open heart surgery the year before had left him with chronic heart disease, little energy and insufficient stamina to hold a job. Still, his death was sudden and shocking.


Ken was a tag-along baby – nearly 11 years younger than I and 9 years younger than my closest sibling, Tom. He struggled his whole life long and yet he was one of the sweetest people I have ever known. He could get angry, tired and frustrated, but he did not ever say or do anything that was in any way cruel. Not many of us can say that.

When he was 50 years old, he was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome – an autism spectrum neurological set of behaviors and symptoms which was not even identified when he was young enough to have benefitted from intervention and treatment. We think now that he drank (secretly, for most of his adult life) as a form of self-medication – to dull the pain associated with never quite ‘fitting in’ socially and to quiet the noise in his head. One of the sad, sweet ironies of his death was that he had found the kind of community and companionship for which he longed in the daily AA meetings he attended. How blessed we all are that he and they found each other!

In the early morning of October 2, 2009, I got a phone call from the manager of his residence telling me that Ken had died in his sleep, just after midnight. His body was not discovered until his housemates got up and began their day. My widowed mother lives in a retirement community in LaVerne, about 10 minutes from that residence and I did not want her to be alone when she learned this terrible news. So I got on the phone and gathered some friends around her before I called and told her that her baby was suddenly gone and that I’d be there as quickly as I could get packed. About three hours later, I was there to help hold her tears, and my own.

It was a strange, sad, wonderful week of preparing Ken’s memorial service. My brother Tom came from northern CA and he and mom and I did what had to be done. La Verne Heights Presbyterian Church was superb, the service went well, the reception was a warm and loving occasion for remembering.

But mom could not face any final decision about Ken’s ashes – the shock was immense and she simply did not know what was best. We talked about it off and on over this year, considering burial in a cemetery – either in LaVerne or Santa Barbara – or dispersal at sea. Nothing quite felt right. Then Tom did some research and discovered that it is legal in the state of CA to bury ashes on private property. So my amazing and thoughtful husband found a sapling oak tree in our side yard and we all made plans to gather for Thanksgiving and then to put him in the ground on what would have been his 55th birthday.

There were just 5 of us there. My 89 year old mom, my husband Dick and I, my brother Tom and his wife Sandy. I put together a small service – the exact one I had used for Dad, 5 years ago February. We read scripture verses of hope and promise, we remembered our son and brother, we read the beautiful ancient prayers from the Book of Common Prayer and we sang the doxology. It was good. It was right. It was enough.

Peace to his memory – I am grateful for his life and grateful for his release from it.

All Saints’ Day, 2010


Did you know there are ELEVEN published verses to the hymn, “For All the Saints?” I didn’t either, until I looked it up on Google last night. Eleven verses. These words, all eleven verses of them, were written by an English bishop specifically for this day in the church calendar – All Saints’ Sunday. And Ralph Vaughan Williams wrote the magnificent melody we began our worship with today – a melody considered by many to be the greatest hymn tune written in the 20th century. He gave this strong unison line the title, “Sine Nomine” – which means “without name,” because it was crystal clear to everyone in the English speaking church that this tune was written for this set of lyrics. In our six-verse collection, we are missing the verses extolling the martyrs, the evangelists, and the apostles. We’re also missing a verse encouraging soldiers fighting the fight of faith. And then there’s this one which we don’t sing:

The golden evening brightens in the west;
Soon, soon to faithful warriors comes their rest.
Sweet is the calm of paradise the blessed.
Alleluia, Alleluia!
which immediately precedes the far more familiar:
But lo! there breaks a yet more glorious day.
The saints triumphant rise in bright array;
The King of glory passes on his way.
Alleluia, alleluia!
“Alleluia, alleluia,” indeed! Such a picture! Let us go to prayer this morning with the picture of that heavenly evening and daytime in our imaginations:
O King of Glory,
How truly magnificent you are.
To think that we –
messed-up,
confused,
broken,
over-scheduled,
over-tired,
over-done
21st century members of your body –
are numbered with those who will one day rise triumphant, clothed in bright array to sing your praises with the saints of all times and places – well – it just boggles the mind.
We praise you and we thank you for Jesus, who makes the promise of our own resurrection real, and who came from you and the Holy Spirit to show us how to live, and breathe and have our being centered in the Triune God.
O good and gracious God, will you hear now our silent prayers, confessing our complete unworthiness to participate in such glory! Oh my, what glory!
We are so thankful that salvation,
redemption,
transformation and ultimately
resurrection itself are not dependent upon our worthiness – but only upon your grace. Thank you for hearing our confession and for forgiving our sin.
We are also thankful that you invite our prayers on behalf of others and ourselves, that you have designed us for real and deep and honest communion with you. We gather in this room today to worship you together – to once again seek your face and to live your gospel. Hear our prayers for the world now, LORD – our prayers for this world, right here where we live – and for that world out there – that world that you love and that we worry about, and that so needs
a whiff of hope,
a glance at peace,
a shirttail of grace to hang onto in the winds of adversity.
So we lift aloud names and situations that are heavy on our hearts today, O Lord,
confident that you will hear and answer,
and with each prayer mentioned, we all will say – “Hear our prayer, O Lord.”
So now we’re ready to receive you in bread and cup. These plain and ordinary things we bring to the table today – including ourselves, Lord! – will you bless them, and us – miraculously marking bread, juice, people as sacred and set apart and holy.
And then may we, your people, strengthened and encouraged by our shared meal,
may we carry your holiness with us to the world in which we live and work and play.
For Jesus’ sake. Amen.

Be Still and Know…

Today was a quiet day. An intentionally quiet day. We opened the sanctuary doors at 9:00 a.m., set out some quasi-healthy snacks under the pergola, and provided some simple written resources so that a few too-busy people might take a step to the side this morning.

A step to the side of the road we call life – that increasingly busy highway of family/job/travel/ technology/you name it – that sometimes moves faster than we wish it would. So much motion leaves little space or time for us to b-r-e-a-t-h-e, to slow down, to be reflective, to listen.
Oh, how I need to listen! I’m so full of responsibilities, appointments, people I care deeply about (some of whom are in crisis of one kind or another), and my own peculiarly bedeviling health issues, that I sometimes think I’ve forgotten how to do that – to listen…quietly, alone and still. So today was a lovely, soothing, moving opportunity to un-kink a bit. To scribble down some thoughts, a few prayers, some confession, all of it offered up to God as a gift of child-like adoration.
Two of our grandchildren recently gave us art of their own creation and I was struck by two things: how pleased and proud they were to give them and how moved and pleased we were to get them. Do you suppose God sees our simple, child-like offerings like that? Oh, I hope so. I pray so.